So I changed the name of my blog because I wanted this to be more about my experiences about being a working, downtown, mommy who is also a separate person — sometimes — when I don’t have another little six or two year old tugging at my leg.
I want to celebrate all the working moms out there who are doing it “all” (and that can differ for each of us: from day to day, hour to hour). Sometimes, I am just glad that I was able to make it home on time to see our two girls for 10 minutes before they go to bed and sometimes, I celebrate the fact that I was able to make dinner two straight nights in a row, and sometimes, I celebrate having an amazing meeting at work in which I thoughtfully planned the meeting and even prepared an agenda, and sometimes (though rarely) I celebrate that I was able to go to the gym for 30 minutes or go to pilates class.
Whatever you are celebrating, no matter how great or little, you are doing it all. You are working, you are a mommy and you are you. You are a Triple Threat Mommy.
I am so excited that I’ll be partaking in the Love Heals 2009 festivities tomorrow in Southampton. It is a great cause, one that I became aware of because Claiborne by John Bartlett is one of the Grand Sponsors of the event. Love Heals supports the Alison Gertz foundation which educates students in New York City about HIV/AIDS by visiting schools and community groups, particularly in high-risk communities.
The Hubby and I are actually going to this event – sans kids. So, it’ll be a one night vacation, date-night and work function all rolled into one. Both sets of grandparents will be taking care of the girls. We’ll miss them both so much, but we need this much needed break. We have been working so hard the past several months, and we feel more like a tag-team rather than husband and wife. It’ll be good to have a long 2.5 hour drive out to Southampton, walk around to the stores, maybe get some Dreesen’s in East Hampton, go OUT, and sleep past 7 am. There’ll be a lot of Love Healing all around!
Mom: Always learning – every day is new milestone with our 19 month and our almost-6-year old. S learns a new word it seems like every minute. Every sentence I say, she picks out a word and starts saying it. O can now read like a 1st grader and is loving it. She now reads “silently” to herself. Amazing.
Wife: Always learning – we have to slow down – we are running at the speed of light…and guess what, we ran so fast we missed our anniversary yesterday. The Hubby actually spent it with his buddys and I spent it with the Housewives of NJ. We were equally happy, but that’s just so messed up we missed our day!
Student: Always learning – just had two weeks off between semesters, and about to start my summer 09 semester next week! A bit stressed on how I can possibly juggle everything…but I always look back, and realize, I CAN do it.
Career Gal: Always learning – on how to do things more efficiently and more importantly, learning how to cultivate those relationships with those work people who you probably spend more time with than your family.
And, as Anne of Green Gables said, “Each day is is a whole new day – without any mistakes in it!” (or something like that)
In hemming and hawing and figuring out which camp to do, I had just found out that Downtown Day Camp now has a waiting list! We have narrowed it down to two camps: New Country Day and Downtown Day Camp, keeping my fingers crossed that they’ll still let campers in. Only in New York City would a camp have a waiting list!
The reason that we’ve narrowed it down to those two, and decided to let Little Red go off the list is because of the time and money cost factors. The Hubby and I both work full-time, and for some reason, camps here in new york city think that we are all Europeans and take the month of august off so we can spend it at our beach house. Well, I’m neither European nor have a beach house. Most camps end in July which leaves the working parents left high and dry. Plus, we’d like to stay downtown-ish and it needs to be reasonably priced. The other factors that need to come into play are: my daughter needs to have friends at the camp, for me, there needs to be air conditioned facilities (the summers in nyc are brutal!!), and there needs to be swimming facilities (she MUST learn how to swim!)
Little Red goes from the end of june through the end of july and runs about $2940. It still leaves me with the month of august with nothing for my 5 3/4 year old. The indoor facilities are air conditioned and they have access to a ton of playgrounds and go swimming at the 14th street y’s heated pool. They get there via an air conditioned bus.
New Country Day is actually in “the country”. ok, its in staten island, but there are trees, and a lake and most of the activities take place outdoors on the grass. New Country Day has a “full summer” session which goes from the end of june through august 21st which is perfect for us. For the full summer? It’s $3700 for a non Y member. The only bad thing is its good thing: it’s in “the country”.
All activities take place outside. What if its brutally hot? What will O do? What about water? She’s not much of a swimmer, but they do go swimming twice a day, which will hopefully get her swimming, but NO air conditioning at all? the hubby feels that this will be good for her: to get her out in nature and doing things that she wouldn’t normally do, like make a teepee out of twigs and make s’mores over a fireplace. I’m torn.
Downtown Day Camp is in the city. And its near our apartment. It, too, has a full summer session for $3745. Again, very competitive with the others. The good thing about it is its downfall: it is too familiar (we think) for O. Is familiarity a good thing or a bad thing for an almost-6 year old? Or should we get her out experiencing new environments? It does have air conditioning, they have access to a pool, and its near our apartment. And another thing it has: a waiting list.
only in new york, folks.
….to be continued!
It’s March, and for those who don’t have children, now is usually the time to get those summer houses in the Hamptons or Jersey Shore all buttoned up and paid for: making sure you get the right people in the house, and figuring out what weekends you are signed up for.
For those of us with kids, it’s not about Amagansett, East Hampton or Spring Lake. Its whether or not we should be doing Downtown Day Camp, New Country Day Camp or Little Red. I have got to get going on this, figuring out the pros and cons, cost analysis, and the bigger question: WHO of her friends will be going to which camp – which in the mind of a 5 3/4 year old – is the biggest factor. It’s a big commitment, and one that I just can’t do in the next 10 minutes. Bigger project, which means I’ll probably have to save it for Sunday night at 8:15 p.m….when the girls are in bed. More to come on what I’m thinking!